Bereavement Counselling
“…You need to feel heard in your pain. You need the reality of your loss reflected back to you, not diminished, not diluted. It seems counterintuitive but true comfort in grief is in acknowledging the pain, not in trying to make it go away”
(Megan Devine: It’s OK That You’re Not OK)
“…You need to feel heard in your pain. You need the reality of your loss reflected back to you, not diminished, not diluted. It seems counterintuitive but true comfort in grief is in acknowledging the pain, not in trying to make it go away”
(Megan Devine: It’s OK That You’re Not OK)
Coping with bereavement is hard, in fact you may feel as though you are not coping at all. Whilst many theories describe different “stages” of grief, they don’t always depict the unpredictability or the “messiness” of it.
The initial weeks and months following a death can be a disorientating “blur”. As people around you return to their own lives, you may find that things are feeling harder than ever. Just as the significance of what has happened is really starting to hit, you start hearing about the need to “move on” or “getting back to normal”.
But your normality has gone and your expectations and hopes for the future are forever changed.
It’s not always easy to talk friends or family about grief. No matter how well intended, comments can add to the loneliness of grief rather than alleviate it.
You may not want to “burden” them with your feelings or they might not be able to meet your support needs.
Counselling can help by giving you the time to “tell it like it is” and hold space for the full range of your emotions. Your grief is not a “problem” that needs a solution and there is no expectation from me to look for “the positives” but we can look at ways to make life more tolerable for you, right now.